Qualities and Skills of a Good Counsellor
- You can tell that they are trustworthy; you feel safe with them.
- They demonstrate unconditional acceptance, genuineness and empathy.
- They try to understand things from your perspective.
- You can tell that they are for you.
- They believe in you. They have a sense of hope and confidence in your ability to change, or find a solution that will work for you.
- They give you their full and undivided attention when you are sharing with them. (They never seem impatient, disinterested or distracted.)
- They listen without interrupting.
- In a counselling session, you do around 90% of the talking; they only talk about 10% of the time.
- You can tell they are interested in what you have to say. What matters to you also matters to them. You set the agenda – not them.
- They help you to find your own solutions instead of giving advice or telling you what you should do.
- They are warm, calm, sensitive, caring, open, patient and concerned.
- You feel that you can be your true self when you are with them. You don’t feel judged, criticised or written-off.
- You get the sense that they respect and like who you are.
- You feel valued by them; they see you as the expert on your own life.
- They are comfortable with silence.
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